Category: Let's talk
Hey all, I just realized something. You know how so many people think that if you talk to someone online you don't really know them? Well, literally you don't, but figuratively you know someone a lot better online because there are no further distractions like looks, and in most cases, voice. In other words, when you talk to someone online, you know them better because all you're seeing of them is their minds, their words, and their character. Today's generation is so totally focused on outer appearance, but when we're on the zone for instance, we have no choice but to find their inner self and experience their inner emotions. Right? Get my meaning? La'ers, Weaseldance.
Brother!
You're right weaseldance. I think talking to people online puts both blind and sighted people on an even level, because no one can see each other, and sometrimes people will talk more online than they will offline. and you don't have to hear a lot of stuff like, I don't like the way he/she has their hair, or I think it's too short too long, etc. I guess I'm strange, but I sometimes enjoy talking more to people I don't know than I do people I've known all my life.
wonderwoman
me to.
then it's fair for every one! if we can't see each other then who's gonna moan?
I agree. I find it easier to talk online than in person. I mean, I like spending time with people in person of course, but it's easier to express things in typing, like what you want to say. I guess it's good in that people do tend to open up more and therefore you can more readily, or at least easily, see who they are, if they're being honest about themselves.
Leilani
I agree that you don't have the distractions online of physical appearance or voice, but I also think it is easier to lie about yourself online. Not that everyone would do this, but for some people it might be easier to lie because they can take the time to think of exactly what to say and how to word it and even go back and change things before they post. Whereas when you are talking to someone in person, you can't always hide your reaction to something they say or take the time to say something in just the right way like you can when you're typing.
You don't know whether they're been jenuin, therefore you don't really know them.
Weaseldance, basically you are right. But how do you know that you really know someone's mind? How do you know if this person is only telling you lies and not what he thinks? And also the character. If you are talking with honest people, then you are right, but eve nthen you don'T know if they are really honest, if yo know what I mean.
hmm I think this is a good point to talk about. Well I personally preffer talking to people online.
me to! glad you agree
Well sure, I do that, too. I prefer that, too. Especially because English is not my first language and I can still correct my sentense, when I talk to someone face to face, I can#t. But still you don'T know who I really am, do you?
LOL! And you can't smell them, either!
Hm, Is this a good or a bad thing now? Hahahaha.
hmm, I think talking online is good because there is no destractions. What if the person has a really dumb voice? You could meet him and say, what a dufice, but you could go online and be really good friends because you don't know these things. Still there are some fakers outthere, and I hate people who have to make the internet a jplace to worry about those things. After a while though, I like to hear people's voices. I'm blindb and that's what I use to tell people apart. It just sais alot about them I think. That's why I like to listen to people's audio profile. People who actually talk though. Some people just post music, which may tell you what kind of music they like, but that's not usuallky what i'm looking for when I click that link.
god I can't spell!
Well, I don't know ... some may think B.O. is pleasing to the senses ... that doesn't include me, though! And no offense meant to anyone here on this site, but has anyone noticed that there are quite a number of blind people who don't care about personal hygiene? I know that whenever I'm around a group of blindies, it, uh, reeks! ... for lack of a more colorful, descriptive word, LOL!
I know one or wo with this problem, but not many onnestly. It's rediculess, er, but so is my spelling so yeah.
of course, very true but that's only if they're being honest about their identity and it's so easy to be just "anyone" online! lol same old same old
Yeah, but it has been pointed out to me by another member here that you could lie in person as well, not just as easily but still. Like, someone could say they were fifteen and really be like eighteen if the height and such matched their lie if you get my meaning. But then it again, ti's really easy to lie online, and I'm hoping no one's getting any ideas lol.
well I'm pretty the same kind of person online as I am offline, and speaking of pretending to be older online, I watched a tv show called promised land, where a woman did just that. I'm not sureshe actually lied and said, I'm 15, but the girl thought she was talking to someone her age, and when she met her, she found out the woman was elderly, in her 70's to be exact. The woman said she hadn't meant to hurt the girl, but when people found out how old she really was, they just didn't talk to her anymore. Well, the girl was quite upset when she found out the person was 60 years older than she was. I think if the net is still around when I'm in my 60's, and there aren't any people on it my age by then, I'll have to give up chats, messsage boards, etc, because, although I like to talk, I think pretending to be way younger than you really are just so people 20 and 30 years younger than you will talk to you is just a bit sick. I always make it a point to tell my age right up front, for one thing, I don't want teens and 20's thinking, yay, she's my age, when actually I'm 20 or 25 years older, if not 30 years older. As for voices, I enjoy hearing people's voices after I've seen their posts for a while. I've occasionally got a great big huge shock hearing some people's voices after having a few experiences with them online.
wonderwoman